Co-Parenting with God

Co-Parenting with God

“Thanks for your advice, but I’ll do just fine learning from my own mistakes.” If I didn’t say them out loud, those words were screaming in my head. My mother had shared another story from her past meant to enlighten and encourage me to skip the same mistakes she’d made. She was parenting, but much like most teenagers, I was quite brilliant. I didn’t need direction from anyone else, especially my mother.

Well, here I am thirty-ish years later in the same situation with my own children. “I really think you’ll notice the difference if you eat better,” I’d said. Instantly the eye-roll and irritation emanating from my young adult daughter was felt, if not seen. It’s much the same response I get from all my children when I offer advice from the many life-lessons I’ve learned. I shrug and pray for the patience to be quiet…now and the next time I want to offer my thoughts. Which reminds me of the serenity prayer I quoted in my video message: Sons and Daughters of the King, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Amen.”

Four Generations

Can we change those we love? Should we try to change them? How much energy, worry, and control should we exert on the decisions of those we care for? Over the course of my child-rearing years, I’ve learned that we, as parents, aren’t really in control. I’ve realized that we can’t fulfill any promise to keep our children safe from harm. It’s clear that many influences occur in our children’s lives that either we’re unaware of or painfully wish had never happened.

During my early parenting years, God spoke to my heart. He was present, offering peace and easing my mind. His strength gave aid to my defeated soul. He offered wisdom and direction, clarifying my role in my children’s lives. You see, God is the only One who is in control. He is the Creator, and these children are His. He does allow bad things to happen. We (you and I) grow, learn, and change largely based on the struggles we face and endure. Our children are no different. If He has intentions that my children experience things I strive for them to avoid, He has His reasons. His will never fails.

Struggling to control a child’s direction and filling with anxiety when they don’t listen wastes energy, causes faith to falter, and fills us with stress. Looking at life’s circumstances through a belief in God and His will, even for our children, allows us freedom. We gain the ability to let go and entrust them to Him.

That doesn’t mean that we stop parenting. However, remaining constantly in communication with God, seeking His wisdom, and trusting His will allows two things to happen: 1) We are comforted when things don’t go the way we’d hoped, and 2) Our children see us in peace during moments where chaos is expected or present. It is a quiet visual of relationship for others to witness, rather than ranting that these difficult times or bad choices are not what we or God would want. When we keep our eyes on God, we step out of being a factor in or source of the chaos itself and become a vessel of peace.

We can relate to our children. After all, we often sense God’s direction in our lives and respond much like an adolescent to a parent, “I’ll do just fine, Lord, learning from my own mistakes.” As you know, life would be so much easier if we’d heed God’s advice. Let me encourage you to come close to God and grow in that relationship. His direction may, at times, be difficult, but the beauty of what He is creating is worth it, and the peace He imparts on the journey gives us strength to endure.

Watch what God can do in your child’s life. When we co-parent with Him, we experience peace in the midst of chaos. Witness the difference that peace in your own parenting can make for those in your life. Though some things take time to change, you can be sure that when you entrust your children to Him, He’ll do a great job. Be a quiet but powerful force of faith in your child’s corner. They will benefit!

Sons and Daughters of the King

Sons and Daughters of the King

We’re each children, born of man and woman, and yet intentionally made by God, our Creator. You are an heir of God, co-heir with Christ. You are a son or daughter of the King! Amazing, right? How can we live like this is reality? For many of us, our earthly father/son or daughter relationship taints our connection with God. Why does that happen? How can we change our perception of God as our Father? Can we stop the psychological hang-ups from hindering our walk with God?

Rebecca is a daughter of the King

We’re living in an amazing time! For those of us who are drawn into relationship with God, we’re able to experience life in His kingdom, a place where peace, joy, and unconditional love are available at all times to us. When the veil was torn at the release of Jesus’ Spirit, so was the division between us and our Creator, We have full access to God and His qualities if we choose to come close to Him and live in this Spiritual realm, in His Kingdom.

I spoke at a women’s retreat on this topic. I think it’s important to recognize the impact our earthly relationships have on us and how we allow those impressions to interfere in our role as sons or daughters of the King. During my speech, at two particular points, I had my audience close their eyes. Once, to allow themselves to conjure up vivid memories and next, to picture the peace found when we focus on Christ. Take a moment to get quiet, click the video below, and let yourself explore your own journey. Perhaps God will reveal a freedom you can experience now.

Click the video below to hear the speech I gave with this powerful message.

Contact me for a written copy of this speech or to have me speak to your group.

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